Healthy work-life balance

Boost your confidence and self-esteem by having a healthy work-life balance

You'll struggle to stay positive if you don't feel in control and satisfied with your life.

A lot of people who lack self-confidence and self-esteem feel it's selfish to think of themselves. This is just not true; confident people realise that balancing your own wants, needs and aspirations with your responsibility to others is vital.

Even if, on the face of it, you feel satisfied with the balance in your life - try this exercise. Be realistic though - for example; don't kid yourself that you aren't happy because you spend more time at work than you do on holiday!

It's important that you open your mind and think creatively, particularly when you're thinking about yourself and the things you would like to do or achieve. Ask yourself if the balance in your life is right. Try thinking about how much time you spend at work and then consider the other aspects of your life that are or should be important to you. 

This is a personal and private exercise and only you will know what's important to you. It might help to think in terms of -

• Your responsibility to others (work, family etc.)
• Your responsibility to yourself (work, enjoyment, health, hobbies etc.)

Does staying healthy and keeping fit help?

If you're out of shape, there's more chance you'll feel insecure and unattractive. By keeping in reasonable shape, you'll improve your physical appearance and feel more energetic. Of course, this doesn't happen on its own. You'll need to make the effort to achieve it. It's true that there is a direct link between your physical state and your mental state. The healthier you are, the easier it is to maintain a positive mental attitude.

Consider this on two levels -

- Your general health
- Your physical fitness

General health - With the exception of illnesses over which you have no control, everyone should be able to stay healthy. If you're sensible with your diet and keep it balanced, if you ensure your body isn't physically stressed, if you get enough sleep and you get exercise, then you should be able to stay in good general health. If one of these key requirements is missing due to your lifestyle, you should think about making a change - you'll struggle to stay positive otherwise.

It's also important to keep physically fit. Don't worry though, you don't have to be super-fit - you just need to keep your body in trim. This is harder for some people than others due to physique and dietary considerations. BUT - everyone can do it. It just takes self-discipline. You need to find a realistic level of fitness that suits you.

This is worth trying if you haven't tried it already. Of course, 'physical fitness' means different things to different people. Don't worry about other people - don't try to match others unless you feel it would help. Manage your expectations here and do what you feel comfortable with. For one person this could mean walking twenty minutes a day, for another it could mean running for twenty minutes a day.

There are all sorts of fitness regimes you could consider - too many to list here. Do some research on the internet and pick one that suits you. You might also consider joining a gym, perhaps even joining a club. It doesn't have to be a running club it could be any type of sport or perhaps a walking club. Start off slowly and work up, don't challenge yourself too much at the beginning.

Good Luck!

Mike